(Post by Candy) I received a wonderful message from Spirit last night in my dreams; in fact it was so strong it woke me and I immediately wrote it down.

Many of us are on this journey to find that perfect relationship that completes us-the one we know that will bring us all the joy that we are missing in our lives.

The clear message from Spirit was we are looking in the wrong place for the flawless person because all we have to do is realize we are the exact person we need to love us. No one could or should ever be more important that ones self. We all need to stop believing someone else can bring us the happiness that is absent in our lives. That pure love and joy needs to reside within each of us. This reminds me of a poem, whose author I have forgotten I read 35 years ago: “How empty of me to be so full of you!”

Now is the time for all of us to be putting that loving, supportive energy into ourselves. Focus on our needs and finding ways to feel complete with ones self.

Then when and if you meet that “special someone” it would be a whole independent person. Remember like attracts like! Two halves make a whole but 2 wholes make a relationship.

When we are whole healthy human beings we are more capable of entering a give and take relationship verses a parasitic relationship which many of us have been host to.

Many surprising things begin to happen to many people when they stop using all their energy searching for another; they find that there are many other complete people out there too. These people also have stopped chasing after the one and found satisfaction and contentment within themselves so they can really see another person. We all now can have that loving, successful relationship because we are coming from the love we have been investing in ourselves. During this process we have grown strong enough to know how to share ourselves, without losing ourselves.

Self Love is an amazing gift we can only give to ourselves.