A difficult dilemma for someone just getting back on their feet. Do I give my beloved dog up for adoption, or keep him with me?
Hello. Thank you for this opportunity to ask my question. I had a dog I loved more than any other animal. Went through a divorce and sold our house and moved in with family who don’t allow dogs. Found an apartment that I will be moving into next week. Do I get my dog I love, pay 400$ deposit plus vet bills? Or do I allow him to get treatment he needs and be adopted.
I can sincerely understand what a dilemma this is. I have to say that I have found myself in this very situation. Twice. Two different pooches.
In both instances, a choice was made from a place of fear which transferred as stress. In order to not create more stress than the situation already carried, we chose to find suitable homes for them. They spent over a year in the care of another household – separately. Yes, we visited, but each time we left them again, we could feel that they would rather be with us. And so, finally, not by final choice I must say, but by circumstances, we were made to collect our pooches and bring them home. I have to say, it was such a relief! Not to mention the sheer joy and excitement and happiness that was felt by them and us. They never forgot us and never stopped loving us. We didn’t have a lot left over (financially) for vet bills, but whenever they needed treatment we sought it out (reiki, low cost vet clinics, community resources) and it worked itself out.
Of course, everyone’s situation is different. So, I would have to say, for all intent and purposes, follow your heart. Because in the end, you must be at peace with your decision. If it tears you apart to be away from your fur baby, but in the end it is too much of a strain and it gets in the way of properly caring for your fur baby, perhaps it is best to allow the adoption. However, if you FEEL you and your fur baby need to be together, and you will feel it, it will happen no matter what you do. Like I said, eventually, we had to bring our dogs home, and it turned out to be for the very best.
I really hope my story can help you. I know it’s difficult. It’s not wrong one way or the other. It’s simply how you feel about it. Ask yourself where your decision stems from. Then, be at peace whether you bring him home or have him adopted. And how you will be at peace, is by making the choice with his best interest at heart, not yours, not fear, not stress.
In my case, I learned a little late, after a heartache separation, that I made the difficult decision from a place that did not serve our pooches. I’m just glad we got a second chance! Good luck to you, love.
In your service,
“Spirit Scribe” for Dear Universe/Reiki Fur Babies