For me life has always been full of changes- those unexpected twists and turns that can
create joy and sadness from moment to moment for any and all of us. After our sweet
Kc crossed over I felt a lot of pain from his loss yet there also was a sense of peace because
Kc was no longer suffering. Kc became so peaceful when he was crossing that it
allowed me to feel a sense of relief for him and in turn a calm washed over me.
Coming home to 
Star was the difficult part of this process. Star and I have always been
Star was the difficult part of this process. Star and I have always beenable to communicate very well until this moment. Star was unable to hear my words, or
feel my love because Kc was no longer with us. Star’s loss was so great because she came after
Kc, and she cared for Kc so her role became blurred. Who was Star now without Kc?
The only comfort Star could find was in licking the blanket Kc slept on the last few days
of his life with us. Star would accept food/meals from me but wasn’t able to reconnect
with me without Kc here.
A week or so later Apryl came for a nice long visit. Star has always been very close to
Apryl. They are like two girlfriends who go on long-long walk, hikes, lunches, and
sleepovers. Watching the two of them fills my heart with such joy because I could see Star
making this love connection again with Apryl. When Apryl’s son Ian comes by the three
of them are all wrapped up in each other while watching a T.V. show or eating ice
cream. This is a family and I’m watching them weave their connections to each other
and it gives me great pleasure to see them all so happy.
Apryl’s visit comes to an end and Star wants to go home with Apryl. I didn’t give Star
away, Star chose to live with Apryl. It was because I have always loved and respected my fur
babies that I understood Star’s choice. Apryl and her longtime love Joey had agreed to
have Star join that pack of three fur babies to become four. The moving and packing
of Star’s few belongings into the getaway car took several hours. Finally time to go, and
Star is beside herself with excitement to finally be going home with her Apryl. As they
drove away I felt such jubilation for Star sitting there on this joyful journey.
I walked back into my home and immediately felt the shift in the energy all around me. I
was very still while I absorbed the changes my external body was experiencing. This
whole process was powerful, because I allowed it to just be whatever it was going to be for
me. I didn’t try and bring all my emotions into the whole transformation that was
occurring for me. I took several days to arrange, and then rearrange furniture to fill in
the spaces that once were occupied with fur babies or their possessions.
Apryl arrived home and the photos, videos, and news clips of all of Stars activities have
been endless. Star joined a pack of fur babies who quickly became her two sisters, and
brother. The bonus for Star is Joey! When he walked in the door the first day she was
home, she forgot who Apryl was. All of her energy, love, and attention was
directed at the man of the house, Joey. Star looks at Joey like a fur baby “in-love.”He
has been encouraging this love fest by spoon nights asleep together, and then teaching
Star how to play soccer and check his golf balls. This guy knows how to woo a fur baby,
let her sleep in the big bed, and play ball with her. I’m sure Star thanks God for this
blessing and this home with Joey, Apryl, Lacey, Gerdy, and Max in it.
The one constant question ask of me is “aren’t you going to get another dog?” My
answer has, and is always the same no. I have had wonderful, amazing, fabulous, kind,
funny, beautiful, fur babies my whole life. I have set up a bird feeding center with a
kinds of feeders, treats, houses, and bird stuff in the middle of my yard. On the side
hidden away from most eyes I also found a great feed station for squirrels, that is
packed with their fa
vorite treats. I tend to a greyhound rescue daily that needs affection,
vorite treats. I tend to a greyhound rescue daily that needs affection,and craves some goodies too. Then a couple of times a week I stop by and feed lunch
to Sammy and Lucy. We spend some quality time talking things over while Ming is at
work. Then let’s not forget my visiting fur babies, Beaumont, Chestnut, Coco,Parker,
and who ever else stops by for a snack and a rub. There are always lots of sweet loving
fur babies that I come into contact with daily.
I have made my Pulmonary specialist very happy that no fur is around my home all the
time. Now I can plan days, hours where I actually get to be number one on my list. I
have been enjoying the freedom of not having the constant care, and feeding of
another. I’m getting to know Candy, and I like her, you would too…
Comments from FB:
Gloria Heinrichs It sounds like everyone has found peace.
David Deborah Johnston ❤
Marisa Bastin What a cute face!!
Frauke Möbius It’s amazing you were able to let Star go. That’s true love.
Candy, I can truly appreciate your story and your willingness to let Star *choose* where she lives. When Thelma transitioned last year, I was heart-broken and saw her sister (Louise) drop into a depression. I thought another cat to keep Louise company might be the right choice. But when life helped me decide not to, Louise pulled out of her funk and has been joyfully happy to be *the one and only* beloved fur baby in the house. It makes me happy that she is happy, too!
Enjoy your menagerie of fur-babes, Candy, and if another one is meant to be in your life, you’ll know it! ♥
Many blessings,
Nancy
Nancy,
Thank you for your comments. Glad to hear that Louise is doing well. We’re sure that Thelma is still around you both!
Blessings to you.