(Post by Candy)

I went to visit a friend today, and was delighted to see her smiling. She was surrounded with
family, and that was something that had been missing for many years in her life. I only spent a
few minutes with them, and it delighted me to see them savoring their time with each other. My
friend’s husband walked me to my car, and thanked me for giving them the advice they needed
to reconnect with their loved ones. He told me; “we just didn’t know how to reach out.”
This all came out of a conversation I had with my friends the week before. We have all had these
conversations before where someone gives us a problem, we give them a solution, then nothing
changes for them. That’s because they don’t act on your wise, loving information to help them
resolve their issue. Then we hear the same old story again; why their life is in turmoil. If we are
smart, we stay silent at these moments. Knowing some people really aren’t looking for resolving
these conflicts, they need them. Why would someone need these struggles in their lives are a
mystery to me, when all I see are resolutions. It’s hard for some to let go of their anger, and
get to the “heart” of the matter. Our egos are very powerful, and hold on tight to ideas of the
importance of right and wrong. We are all right and we are all wrong. What difference does it
make if you are sitting alone, and unhappy, but believing you were right. I never needed to be
right to live my best, happiest life. My only requirement was to stay present and live my most
authentic life. Be my own best friend, and love myself. Sounds easy enough, and if only more of
us could spread the word, what an amazing planet we would be sharing with one another.